Updated: Sep 28, 2020
As parents, our college-aged kids have returned home, with online school.
There is a temptation for us as parents to step in and understand what assignments are due, when their classes are, and what tests they have coming up.
Resist the urge to jump in and get involved. This is not helping our young adults become independent.
May I step in and objectively explore this with you?
*If they were currently at college, you would not know anything about their assignments. What has changed? Why the need to know?
*This issue I see often in families with adult children (mine as well), we tend to step back into our “old” family roles instead of growing into our new selves.
*For example: If your kid was in college, they needed to clean their own room, clean their own bathroom, and do their own laundry.
*Why would you allow them to step back in time, put their feet up, and not manage their responsibilities?
*As Moms, it is natural for us to want to be the caregivers, but as our kids grow into young adults that caregiving shapeshifts into a different form. It is more of a supportive and empowering role.
*Explore ways you can give love and support without enabling our teens to revert to irresponsibility.
Which areas of motherhood are most difficult for you to resist “SuperMama roll”?