The one thing I hear time and time again from the women I work with is how fast the time goes. You see, when the teenage years hit, things start to accelerate.
My friend Tom says, "life is like a roll of toilet paper, when you start nearing the end, the roll runs out quickly."
It's a funny analogy, but it is true.
I remember when my kids started high school and then in the blink of an eye, college was on the horizon.
I also remember how I felt. I remember thinking, “did I teach them everything I wanted them to learn?” I remember feeling like I squandered a lot of time. I remember feeling some sadness.
I also remember what happened for me when I first started thinking these thoughts! I jumped into action (the activator and get her done mentality) and decided, I'm going to get all the lessons in I can in the short time I have left with them at home.
Well, that didn't work for me and it doesn't work for the Moms I get to work with daily. It actually backfires in many ways.
The common mistake most Moms make is when their teen pulls away, they cling tighter, which just increases the tug of war between frustration and control.
What is really needs to happen is a shift in our thinking about the situation. How can we assist our young adults to move towards independence and at the same time prepare ourselves for their departure from our homes?
This is what I love to help Moms with on a regular basis! If this is you, reach out if you have questions about how!