Updated: Sep 28
If ever we needed resilience, it has been in the first half of 2020!
Resilience is the "capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; the ability to spring back into shape or become flexible."
As demonstrated in 2020, we CANNOT CONTROL OUR CIRCUMSTANCES! But we can control how we choose to respond to them.
I loved this quote because it demonstrates that those who are not flexible will snap.....😮
That's right! If we don't build resilience in ourselves, our teen's and society, we will snap just like a tree that does not bend with the wind! Now that's a visual!
How do we build resilience in ourselves and our teens?
✔️It begins with noticing. Yes, noticing what's going on under the surface, in the heart. Begin by being honest with yourself, taking some deep breaths, and giving yourself space to understand what you are experiencing. We need to put words to our experiences. The saying you need to "name it to tame it" is true scientifically. Once we name it, we can become curious about it in a non-judgmental way.
✔️Getting curious about our situation helps us access the problem-solving area of our brain instead of the emotions center. Once you arrive there, you can look at the situation from different perspectives and choosing where to focus. Accessing empathy by putting yourself in someone else's shoes.
✔️Remember the times you have pushed through difficulties. Remember past situations where God faithfully intervened on your behalf. Remember the gifts and strengths you called upon in the past that helped you push through the situation.
✔️Sometimes, when the problem is too big to tackle, it's helpful to break it down into smaller tasks. When we are able to have success with the small steps, our brains release the reward hormone.
✔️Ask yourself if you have been caring for yourself properly? Have you been exercising, meditating, praying, journaling your thoughts, getting into God's Word? All of these things help to clear our minds and refocus us.
In my work with Moms, we've seen this to be effective. I'm able to help them develop new patterns of thinking, grow in emotional intelligence, and connect with their teen's in spite of the teenage drama. Don't we all need a few new tools for our toolbox to manage 2020?
Remember, we cannot control our circumstances, but we can control how we think and feel about them. Yes, we get to choose!
Will you choose to give yourself space to process your experiences?
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