Lately, I hear, "don't judge me" all over the place. Sometimes, when I hear this phrase I'm baffled because there is no judgment, in the way they mean it, attached to the statements.
What does the word judgment mean? The ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions. So judgment requires thought to process the facts and come to conclusions.
🛑With this in mind, when is judgment wrong? I would venture to say that judgment is wrong when the conclusion you have come to condemns another human being. Now, just because you disagree with someone's thoughts, ideas, or actions does not mean you are condemning them.
🛑Let me say that again: just because you disagree with someone's opinion, thought or actions does not mean you are condemning them. It simply means you disagree.
🛑Disagreements and how to handle them is one area that emotional intelligence comes into play. When we are faced with conflict, it is best to approach the situation with curiosity.
🛑Ask questions with the desire to learn. It doesn't mean you need to change your "judgment", it just means you are open to respect the other individual and their thoughts.
🛑Empathy is the ability to understand and see things from both sides of the situation. Empathy is one of the key components of Emotional Intelligence.