What drives your goals? What about your teen's goals?
Whether your goals are internally or externally focused will indicate your satisfaction in life.
What is the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic goals?
Intrinsic goals focus on personal development and becoming the best you can be in a skill you have chosen to master.
Extrinsic goals are those that revolve around people's opinions and external rewards, such as money, popularity, or praise.
What is wrong with extrinsic goals anyway? The problem with them is that you have no control over them. You can perform just as you expected and still not receive the rewards that you think you deserve, which leads to dissatisfaction.
What if we changed our focus to an intrinsic perspective?
What would that look like?