Are you feeling smothered? This is how this photo resonates with me. It made me look up the word smothered (cause I like words!)
This is what I found in the Urban Dictionary. (The urban dictionary is a crowdsourced online dictionary for slang words and phrases.) "An overbearing mother; a mother who is a helicopter parent." These definitions are written by our youth and I find this definition interesting.
I mean, let's face it, we all want to help our kids be the best they can be, but when we hover (like a helicopter; hence the name) over them, not allowing them to fail in any way, we are robbing them of the freedom to grow and learn.
Somewhere along the line, as parents, we have been bamboozled into thinking that driving our kids to perfection will help them succeed, give them the best opportunities, get them into the best schools, but what are we sacrificing in the name of "success"?
In fact, it is smothering them and keeping them dependent on us, instead of preparing them for the real world.
Our goal as parents should be to help our kid's brains develop so they can learn to solve problems, think deeply, learn how to manage their emotions when things don't go their way (we are seeing the effects in a society of those who have adult temper tantrums when they don't get their way). We need to regain our focus as parents.
If you want to learn how to help your teen grow, without "smothering" them, join us for the Parenting with Intention workshop for Parents with Teens & Tweens. This interactive workshop starts on Feb. 21st in a Zoom classroom. Register today on LivingFullLifeCoaching.com
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