Home for the Holidays! Your slippers may not be ruby red, your home may not be glittered with gold, your tree may not be filled with all the perfect presents, but "there is no place like home".
Some will be going, some will be coming, some will be staying; all with their own fixed set of expectations that are bound to be unmet.
Expectations defined: having a belief, anticipation, or hope about the future.
Each person will show up with their own set of expectations. Each party playing their own role, some executing a perfect, predictable performance, others who never disappoint to behave just the way you dread. Let's face it: we will never please everyone, nor were we meant to.
How do we deal with all those unmet expectations that come with the holiday season?
Well, there's a lesson we can learn from the old movie the Wizard of Oz. “Then close your eyes and tap your heels together three times and think to yourself, there's no place like home.” Dorothy learned that if she followed these instructions she can get to the peaceful place of home.
It worked for Dorothy, but how does this work for us?
When fights and quarrels are among you, realize that they come from the battle within you because you do not get something that you want (your unmet expectation)
We we feel these feelings boiling up in our minds or bodies, notice them. Pay attention, acknowledge to yourself what is happening; pause (Dorothy's 3 tap method).
Begin to ask yourself some questions (Dorothy's think to yourself method).
What am I feeling? What am I thinking? Is it true? Is it a lie? Is this how I want to feel? What can I do to make this situation better? There are thousands of questions you can ask yourself! The key is to prepare your questions ahead of time, because we already know that the players will NOT DISAPPOINT with their performance.
Remember your shoes do not need to be ruby red, you cannot please everyone, and there is no place like home. You get to choose the peace you experience in your home this holiday.