This really got my attention today, and I just had to share: "It's not our differences that divide us. It's our judgments about each other that do". M. Wheatly
So here's where I'm going; we have anywhere from 50,000-70,000 thoughts a day!
And guess what researchers have found? Ready? 98% of our thoughts are the same as we had the day before!!!! What???! That blows my mind! That means when we make decisions they are usually made from well established paths in our brains.
Now, if those well established paths are judgmental, blaming, and based on a win-lose premise we will end up getting stuck with no escape like those tracks in my photo.
And guess what? No learning takes place here; its all automatic!
The good news is: WE CAN CHOOSE to expand our options and blaze new trails in our brains by pausing and asking ourselves some questions.
M. Adams says ask yourself, "What do I want for myself, others, and the situation?
Am I listening with Learner ears or Judger ears?
What assumptions am I making about myself, others and the situation?
Who do I CHOOSE TO BE IN THIS MOMENT?"
Today, consider pausing to CHOOSE who you want to be in the face of your brain's automatic responses that may come your way.
You get to choose.