What People Are Saying:
"In just a month, my thinking has become more positive and I am finally taking control of my life.
Doreen is honest, encouraging, and insightful. She helps guide you through your decisions and makes you see things in yourself that you were not aware of before. Doreen gives you the tools to stay organized, build your confidence, and reach your goals.
I've learned how to dig deep internally to create balance and influence others more effectively."
"I am better able to step back and notice where thoughts and emotions are coming from. I am better able to accept that I’m not superwoman and this isn’t all on me, as I use the practical tools Doreen provides to empower my son.
Before working with Doreen, I felt like I was in constant battle with my teen. I learned how to react less based on my emotions and become intentional with my words and actions. Now, I'm able to recognize when my brain is getting hacked."
"I hired Doreen to help me with my relationship with my teenage son. Doreen’s compassion and love for her clients is truly a gift! Doreen guided me to shift my mindset to seeing my son as a young man instead of a boy which helped me show up more the way I wanted to as a mother. Doreen also helped me start to come up with different ways to interact with my son on a weekly basis to help create a much healthier dynamic between us. I highly recommend Doreen as a very caring, present and knowledgeable coach."
"My teens are 18 and 15 and the result of Doreen’s coaching is our now more harmonious home! When I first came to work with Doreen, I spent a lot of time nagging my teens to get the to cooperate. It was exhausting! I also struggled with guilt because I wanted to build stronger relationships with them and I felt
Doreen's group coaching helped me prepare my children to be responsible young adults and connect with them! She provided a whole toolbox of tools to choose from and I get to use them daily. It truly changed the whole dynamic in our home!"
"As a woman in a corporate environment, I felt a lot of pressure. The second I got home, the tug of war began with my teenagers. I was frustrated and didn't know how to balance it all without yelling and screaming to get them to listen. I felt like I was alone trying to juggle it all.
Working with Doreen changed our family. She helped me balance all the spinning plates and we designed strategies for gaining buy-in at home. Our family now functions as a family and I'm really clear-minded, instead of always feeling guilty. I'm no longer exhausted because I'm trying to be everything to everyone and can unplug when I get home and enjoy my family."
LEARNING TO LIVE IN THE PRESENCE OF GOD AND OTHERS:
Exactly at the right moment, I ran across a quote from Paul Miller I had written down months before. It said, “anxiety is self on its own, trying to get control”. Wowza! This was me and that is where the shift began for me.
Glaring at me like a scorching sun in the heat of the day was truth about myself. Jumping into action, was way easier then slowing down to jump into the arms of God. Feeling productive was easier than doing ‘nothing’.
COMBATING DECISION FATIGUE:
Decisions, decisions, decisions……it seems like our brains are bombarded with decisions!
According to an article in Psychology Today, the average person makes around 35,000 decisions a day, unless you are a Working Mom, then I would double that! (the second half is Doreen guessology :). Heck, a study by Cornell University revealed that we make 226.7 daily decisions about food alone! (Unhackable, Oberbrunner). This doesn’t even take into account the constant questions of kids and your parenting responsibilities!
WHAT DO PARAGLIDING & PARENTING TEENS HAVE IN COMMON?
It reminded me of parenting teens and young adults. Here are a few thoughts to ponder:
1. We want them to fly, AND it's sometimes scary to let go. Our natural instinct is to protect and keep them safe. Our brains are really good at keeping us safe and our families safe, we don't have to work hard at that!
Now more than ever, the parents I work with have thoughts about all that can go wrong in the world.