Get Curious

leadership mindset and goals neuroscience personal development spiritual development working moms Nov 20, 2021
The Holidays are coming and with them is the need to understand how to combat communication problems that may arise when all the people, with all different opinions, thoughts, and presumptions enter the same room together.
You know what I'm saying, the times when you are in the same room with Uncle Anthony Atheist, Aunt Alice Activist with her new boyfriend Socialist Sam who sits at Traditional Tom’s table with Political Patti, Stir the Pot Suzy & Pope Paul.
These times can be challenging for all of us, but there is hope. What if we approached these opportunities with the goal of listening with curiosity? When we are curious, no one gets furious! To be curious means to be "eager to know or learn something".
This requires humility because it forces us to admit that we really don't have all the information, all the answers, all the motives behind the decisions, or all the solutions.
It forces us to listen and learn without judgment; to hear different perspectives than we have, and to show respect for those differences.
It requires us to compromise and find common ground, even if we don't agree.
It requires a touch of emotional intelligence, as we manage our emotions when people disagree with things we may be passionate about.
We must remember most times it is not a personal attack.
It requires us pausing and saying, hey, what might I be missing here?
Mostly, it requires listening carefully and fully to understand (even if you don't agree.).
Ears open, heart open, mind open for what we might learn about ourselves, others, or situations.
Listening, not for what we will say, or debate in return to someone's passion instead
This is the only climate where change will occur.
One where we approach one another in gentleness and respect; seeking to listen and learn in humility.
When we are curious (eager to know or learn something); no one gets furious.
What actions can you take to promote harmony for the holidays this year?