Caught not taughtNov 12, 2021
👉Kathy (her name was changed to protect confidentiality) had a habit. This habit developed in her childhood. Whenever she made a mistake and something did not go her way, she would talk to herself.
👉She would say things to herself that she would never say to a friend. She was a downright bully to herself.
👉What she discovered was that sometimes those self-shaming statements would come out in front of her teenager.
👉She was devastated and noticed it clearly when those words came from the lips of her child!
👉You see our thoughts, feelings, and actions are caught by our kids, not taught.
👉This mom did not intentionally teach her child to bully herself, but her child watched mom berate herself and began to follow suit.
🙌That’s when Kathy came to me for help.
🙌She knew her habit was not helping her family grow and be their best. Kathy opened herself up for coaching to change her thinking and what she didn’t realize is that her relationship with her daughter was also going to change through this one action.
🙌She noticed that her daughter was paying attention to her new improved ways of dealing with life’s setbacks. She developed a toolbox of tools to tackle these habitual thoughts when they crept back in. She was then able to teach her daughter better ways to cope with her own challenges.
🙌This is what she had to say, “The principles I learned for myself can be used for parenting, but also with any relationship, personal and professional. They really work and changed my life"
🙌One step forward can change your life too!
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